Life is never dull

   Life is never dull if you are interacting with people.   Doesn't matter if it's men or women--we are all uniquely created and the reality is, most of us like to believe that we're right and that we have it all together.   Truth be told, do we??  I certainly don't.
   The older I get the more time I spend trying to live less and less out of my own selfish wants and desires and more into realizing that it really isn't about me.  I was reminded of this again this morning when a young woman called me regarding a relationship issue with another woman.   Her point was that she often feels invisible around people--that she feels like she always has to be the person to reach out and say "hi" or "how are things going with you" or "how would you like to go have lunch".  That she can be kind to someone and then the next time she's around them she feels like she's totally invisible because they won't even acknowledge her presence.  And so of course then the self-pity comes into play of wondering why you even try anyway!
   There are a lot of people who treat me that way too, and when I was younger it bugged me to no end.   But the older I get, and probably the more I've been in the sales field and really studied and led bible studies, I realize that it is I who must reach out.  It is I who must be the first to say hi or introduce myself or shake a hand or give a hug.   And I will do it whether I feel like it or not and whether or not someone will be kind to me in return.  Sometimes there is reciprication and sometimes there isn't.  My husband and I regularly invite guests to our home for dinner, for games, for multiple activities. It is rare that we are invited to someone's home and then I find myself thinking "nobody likes me...what's with that?!?!?  Self pity sets in very easily.
  I was listening to a woman by the name of Julieanne Jones talk about direct sales and how to make home parties fun.   I loved what she said..."change your focus. You are not there for yourself.  It's not all about you!!!  It's about them."   How many years did I go into a party thinking "I need XX in sales" or "I want a recruit" or "I need some bookings".   And her words were a gentle reminder to me once again that you know what "life in general really isn't about me" so I need to get over myself and continue to be kind and loving and caring and hospitable.  Nope, that doesn't mean getting walked all over...because I certainly do have boundaries, but this business has taught me so much about consistently being a sower into others' lives.   The reaping....well, it never ends.